Wise bosses seek advice.
Foolish bosses always know.
Clarify the boss’s goals, intentions, and assumptions. Repeat your understanding of desired outcomes.
Speak to intentions, not presenting issues. “With your intentions in mind, you might consider….”
before offering one word of advice. For example:
Insight follows curiosity.
One way to give advice is by providing space for reflection.
Excess emotion increases stress and complexity. Drama is distraction. Stay focused and cool when giving advice.
Hot emotion is one way to say, “I want my way.”
Trusted advisers help others reach their goals.
Begin with your suggestions. Follow with reasons. “You might try …. Here’s why I’m suggesting that.”
Say, “Here’s an option …,” rather than, “I disagree….” It’s not necessary to be disagreeable to disagree.
The difference between advisers and crusaders is attachment to their ideas.
⇒ Tip: Grab an oar and row, regardless of the final decision.
Advisers become more engaged.
Inviting advice increases engagement and feelings of power in team members, even if their alternatives aren’t chosen.
People find energy, when they feel heard.
⇒ Warning: Fake listening increases frustration and powerlessness.
What tips/warnings might you offer for giving advice to the boss and advancing your career?